Whose Kingdom Are We REALLY Building?

I am involved in a choir outside of church and we are in the process of selecting a new conductor becauseour current conductor is retiring shortly. To be blunt, being involved in some of the process has been discouraging to me because of the lobbying that is getting involved. Some of the people don't seem to be thinking in terms of the overall growth of the choir, they're thinking in terms of who they like or who they know. Sometimes this same atmosphere is created within the life of a church, but God's desire is to see the larger scope of His kingdom built.
before I go any further, I want to assure you that I believe that God is involved with the smaller scope as well, but I believe that the smaller scope (i.e. an individual or an individual church is how he wants to work through us to accomplish building the Kingdom).

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Are we individually doing or part to build the kingdom of God or of ourselves? Before you quickly answer that, I'd like you to ask God to search your heart. Psalm 44 states that only God knows the secrets of the heart. I actully believe that God can make us aware of thoughts within us that we don't even realize are there, but he does.
It's so easy for us give the quick, easy, spiritual answer, "of course I'm building God's kingdom, but I believe that if we aren't asking ourselves this question on a daily basis, we're probably not building God's kingdom because both our humanity and our society are focused on what feels good to "me, and my rights, and the way I think", but the focus of God's Kingdom is away from ourselves, first to him and the way He thinks, then to others. We can all tend to get so focused on personality, perferences, issues, and so much other stuff, but that's the stuff that christ wants to use to draw us closer to himself through relationships. It's how iron sharpens iron (Pro. 27:17) and how we grow together by spurring one another on to good works (Titus 3:8). Paul talks about all this kind of stuff in his letter to Titus.
Sometimes God puts people in positions of leadership for at least three reasons, first to teach the individual leading, second to teach those that are following, and third in order to building His kingdom in each of those first two groups, plus the kingdom in a much broader sense.

So my challenge is, to work out relationships where you're at, look to strengthening relationships, not to run from them. (Yes, I am preaching to myself as well) If it's a theological issue, let it be known in the proper ways. If it's a preference or a relational issue, work it out through communication and resolve to stay committed to one another.